What was the most memorable part of this past month?
I got to spend a week in Florida with my mom and sisters. It was the first vacation I’ve had away from the kids in 5 years. I had been telling Nick for years that I needed a break and I really did. I didn’t even realize how much I need one until I got back to Seattle from Florida. Now I feel more motivated and energized which feels really good.
And, my baby Dessa turned 2! I really don’t want her to get any bigger but at the same time, I am loving the person she is becoming. She is a sassy, talkative, shy, brave, smart, polite little bug and I love her so much. She’s pretty amazing is what I’m trying to say.
What were the three biggest lessons you’ve learned in this past month?
- If you take care of yourself first then you have more to give to others.
- You can’t force people to be who you want them to be. You can only live your truth and if people want to be there with you then they will. If they don’t then it’s okay to let them go their own way.
- People can grow and change but only if they want to.
How are you different between this past month and the month before it?
I am more engaged and motivated than I was last month. I’m not exhausted or resentful. I’m just overall feeling more positive about life and what it has in store for me.
What or who are you especially grateful for this past month?
I’m grateful that Nick stayed home with the kids for a week so I could go to Florida. I’m also grateful to my mom and sisters for spending the week with me.
Name three things you can improve on next month. What are concrete actions you can take to work towards these improvements?
- Not letting my emotions totally take over. There are times when I get frustrated and instead of communicating that I’m frustrated because I’m tired or hungry or because someone said or did something I just get angry and lash out. In those moments when I feel that frustrating feeling come on, I want to take a step back and communicate what I’m actually feeling. That way there is no need to lash out and I can get the actual problem addressed.
- Having a real routine. I’ve tried for years to get myself into a routine of when I’ll wake up or when I’ll go to bed and I’ve yet to stick to anything. I really want to get myself into a routine. That means no hitting snooze in the morning and no staying up until 1 in the morning.
- Move more. For Christmas, my in-laws got me a Fitbit. On average I took 3265 steps a day. That is far less than the recommended 10,000 steps I should be taking. I don’t feel a need to hit that 10,000 steps a day but I’d like to raise my average, even if it’s just a little. That means getting up and out more every day.
From 1-10, how do you feel overall about this past month?
9! I got to go on vacation, which was amazing. After that, I felt so good that I was motivated to get a ton of stuff done that I had been putting off. It’s been a pretty good month.