Once again I am joining Deepak and Oprah for a free 21 day meditation experience. This new meditation series is Hope in Uncertain Times where Oprah and Deepak will teach me to find hope in the core of my being to help me discover my strength, clarity and purpose. Feel free to follow me on my journey or sign up so you can join me.
Hope in Uncertain Times – Hope Is Always Available
In each of our relationships, there is a spectrum of hope that ranges from hopeless about creating any real change to embracing change. Take two relationships that are very important to you and rate them from 1 (never going to change) to 5 (always changing and growing). Briefly write down why you feel this way for each of them.
1) My husband – 2 – My husband over the past 3 years has changed as have I but our relationship hasn’t seemed to. We fight about all the same things, have the same bad habit and nothing seems to be evolving.
2) My Sister B – 4 – My sister is the one constant in my life. I can always depend on her to be there for me even if it annoys the ever-living shit out of her. But our relationship is always growing. From hating each other when we were young, to ignoring each other when we were young adults, to being really close in the present.
What qualities would give these two relationships more hope? Using the word “more,” follow it with positive possibilities, such as more acceptance, more tolerance, more forgiveness, more affection, more honesty.
My husband and I have been talking about going back to marriage counseling recently and that makes me more hopeful that with a little or a lot of work things can change and evolve. I’m hoping that we can find acceptance in each others difference and faults and more forgiveness of hard times we gone through in the past.
The only thing I can think of that would make me feel more hopeful with my sister is if she moved closer to me. I know this won’t happen but maybe if I meditate and visualize enough the universe will manifest my wish. If it really never happens that’s okay because I still feel like I have a great relationship with her.
Even though every relationship is a two-way street, describe one thing you will do today for each of these relationships that represents a change you want, picking from the qualities you wrote down in Question 2. For example, if you wrote “more affection,” perhaps you could give your family member a prolonged hug when you get home from work.
Today I can be more tolerant and understanding with Nick. It’s not easy as I have no patience for other people but I will try my hardest.
As for my sister, I’m probably going to leave her alone as we both like our space and it gives us more things to talk about next time she calls me.