I’m doing another 21-Day meditation experience with Deepak and Oprah. This one comes at a most serendipitous time in my life as some of you may know. This meditation experience is all about getting “unstuck” and removing the limitations we put on ourselves that stop us for living our fullest life. I’ll be doing these meditations daily and documenting my reflections on this lovely blog here. Follow along and feel free to leave comments below if you have anything to add.
Day 4 – How to Be Renewed Everyday
To make something new happen, you have to drop something old. Journal about three things you find yourself doing repeatedly, even though they never work. Some examples are stubbornly trying to be right, arguing against someone who is never going to change, or staying home even though it makes you feel lonely.
1) I don’t apologize or forgive readily. I will argue my point until the other person gives up and I hardly ever apologize for anything, especially if the person has hurt me at any given time.
2) I don’t proactively push myself to do the things I know will make me happy because it seems very difficult. I’m lazy.
3) I isolate myself from others even though I’m lonely because I’m afraid of judgement.
For each of these repeated responses that don’t work, decide to simply release your mental hold on them today. Jot down a handful of feelings you imagine you would experience in a life free from these stuck habits.
Free, happy, productive, included, cared for, accepted.
When I was 18 I had my first “real” boyfriend who I had an on and off relationship with for about a year. It was a wildly unhealthy relationship for me but I didn’t realize it at the time. When I stopped caring about what he thought about me and stopped being afraid of being alone I realized my worth. When I dropped the bad habit of allowing other people to dictate my worth I was happier and content with who I am. I felt free to be myself and felt loved and accepted by the people I allowed in my life.
I think moving ahead I need to not have such a chip on my shoulder. I need to live in the now and not the yesterday. What happened to me in my past is only relevant as a tool for learning from and not a place I should be consumed by. I know that my future holds a lot of new and exciting things for me if I just stay present and focused on the now.