I am participating in another Deepak & Oprah Meditation Experience. This meditation experience is about finding deeper connections and understanding with people and oneself. Please follow along on my journey to healthier and happier life.
Bringing the True Self Home
Reflect on the idea that all relationships come back to how you relate to yourself. List the following qualities of relationship: respect, trust, appreciation, love, non-judgment, caring, compassion, and honesty. For each quality, how does it apply to you? Do you show yourself respect, trust, compassion, etc.? Put down a plus (+), minus (-) or neutral (0) beside each quality to signify if you feel positive, negative, or neutral about how you show this quality to yourself.
Taking the qualities you put a plus (+) next to, write down one thing you can do today to show this quality to another person.
Respect- I know my husband has been struggling with something recently but we’ve been too busy to really talk about it. I know he’s tried but we just haven’t been able to really dig in and have a real conversation. I’m going to sit down with him tonight after the kids go down to have a real conversation that isn’t interrupted. I want to show Nick that I respect him and his feelings so I’m going to give him my undivided attention.
Appreciation- After this I’m going to go tell Nick how much I appreciate him packing up the boy’s room today.
Love- I’m going to spend some time with my kids and let them know that I love them. Gray says all the time that he knows I love him but I want him to feel loved too.
Honesty- I think that I already had an honest conversation with my mom. We didn’t talk about anything difficult but I always tell my mom how I feel and what I think in a very honest way.
Taking the negative (-) and neutral (0) qualities, write down one thing you can do today to feel better about this quality. For example, if you feel you haven’t been honest with yourself, journal about what it is you need to own up to and improve. If you feel you don’t care for yourself enough, do something that gives you a sense of wellbeing.
Trust- After all the things that I’ve been through in my marriage it has been hard to trust myself and my decisions. I’ve read up on how to trust oneself again and they suggest staying present which is what I’ve been trying to do lately and I’ve noticed a big difference already.
The next thing they say to do is to have my own mantras of self-praise. I haven’t done this, at least not consciously, so I’m going to try it. I’ll probably type some out and put them in a small picture frame to keep on my bedside table so when I’m really in a funk they are right there for me.
Non-judgment- In the past I’ve judged myself sometime too harshly. Recently though, things are getting better. As I get older I’m become more and more okay with who I am, “flaws” and all. I’m looking more on the positive side of things but still see a lot of negativity around me so I’m going to keep trying to find the positive in everyday. I’m also focusing on my life and not comparing it to others. I’ve learned that I’m right where I should be and where others are is where they should be. Sometimes I forget this but recently I’ve been much better and staying focused on me and I find that I’m a lot happier.
Caring- I find that I’m not very caring to myself. I often don’t make the time to properly get ready each day. Most days I jump into yoga pants, a sweatshirt, wash my face and brush my teeth and rush out the door. At night I shower but don’t go to bed until midnight at the earliest. I should be taking proper care of myself and finding time to pamper myself every once in a while.
Compassion- My internal voice is a bitch. Like the most popular girl in middle school kind of bitch. She caddy, mean and has a viper tongue but I’m the only one who can hear her and the only one she talks about. I’ve judged myself pretty harshly for most of my life and have zero compassion when I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I need to be more forgiving of myself. It’s okay that I mess up and that I’m not perfect. I’d like to get to a point where I’m love my imperfections. That I see them as something that makes me uniquely me. The only way to do that is to tell the bitch in my head to shut the hell up. I need to realize when I’m listening to her and in that moment intentionally be compassionate with myself.
Use this space to reflect further on your experience today.
Todays meditation was a lot to think about. I feel like my brain is going to mull over all this for days which is good. I’m excited to see what tomorrows meditation is all about. I feel like I’ve already taken so much away from this experience and it’s only the third day!